Oh boy, here it comes again…that pain! How many of us are living with physical pain? Is it your neck, head, back, stomach?
It wasn’t all that long ago that I was on a phone call with my cousin, and we were talking about our recurring ailments (Great…we’ve become our mothers). She said something to me that really resonated with me. “Everyone has their sick spot!” What she was describing to me was that every time she got stressed her back would hurt. Her friend would get a lung or respiratory infection when under stress. For many people, it is stomach issues or migraines. For me, it is my stomach.
Ugh! The bane of my existence since childhood has been my stomach. I could probably support a small country with the amount of money I’ve spent trying to fix my stomach issues. A few years back, a good friend, who happens to be a phenomenal psychiatrist (wink, wink), said: “my dear, you have anxiety, and it manifests in your stomach!”
Say what? Actually, this wasn’t the first time I’d heard this, but I always refused to believe it. “No, no…there’s seriously something wrong with my stomach. I’m pretty sure I’m dying of some horrible stomach ailment!” I would say. My stomach hurt…and I mean really, really hurt.
The interesting thing was that ultimately these confidants of mine were right. Sigh! I was actually doing this to myself. Now honestly, there were times that I really did have some horrible things going on with my stomach…and I had the tests to prove it. The real question was, why was my stomach so vulnerable?
Here’s the answer. My “weak spot”, my stomach, was my physical compass. If I had stopped and actually listened to what it was trying to tell me, instead of just treating the symptoms, I would have found relief, let alone saved a ton of money.
So, what does this mean? It means that an alarm goes off in my stomach when I’m not on the right track or doing something that goes against my instincts. Now that I’ve finally started to listen to this, I am often able to resolve my stomach issues as soon as I listen to what it is telling me. Why do you think there are so many idioms around the word “gut”? I have a gut feeling. Trust your gut. That was gut wrenching. I hate their guts. What a kick in the gut. Spill your guts. Gut it out. Have the guts to do something. That’s not a coincidence my friends…that is the brain-body connection, and there is a boatload of science to back it up!
From the time you are about 3 years old, you are told how to react to situations. You are told things like: “Don’t cry. Suck it up, buttercup. Don’t be a baby. Be a big girl/boy. Keep it to yourself. Do it this way!” Geesh, and we wonder why we stop listening to our instincts or what our physical compass is telling us.
Are you going in the wrong direction? That wrong direction could be that you are investing your time or energy in people or things that your body is telling you that you shouldn’t. It could be that you are in a relationship with someone who is not compatible or is a bad influence. It could be you are doing the wrong work. It actually could be a million things and is tailored specifically to you. Your body is telling you that you need to change direction.
Now, let me be clear, I’m not saying all pain is a psychological reaction. If you break your bones, are in an accident and are injured, are born with a medical issue or have a medical illness, your pain is real. The amount of pain you feel can be highly impacted by your thoughts, and many medical illnesses are traced back to physiological responses to psychological situations. These symptoms can include but are not limited to acne, hair loss, weight gain or weight loss, auto-immune diseases, pain, IBS, sexual dysfunction, headaches, chronic fatigue, irritability and cardiovascular issues.
I have a simple exercise that I use to show you how a simple thought can cause a physical reaction in your body. If you want to uncover what might be affecting you and holding you back from moving forward and living a life that you desire, contact me for a free consultation. It’s time to feel better!